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ryan dawidjan

i'm an 18yr old student, lacrosse player and aspiring entrepreneur

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  • July 13, 08:45 PM

    Time to Actually Create Something

    Both my twitter and blog bio's state that I am an "aspiring entrepreneur." Why?

    I have genuine interest in entrepreneurship and everyday I read, watch and listen to content on the subject. Several family members and close friends are very successful entrepreneurs. I'll be studying and practicing entrepreneurship for the next four years in college and beyond. I've had the entrepreneurial/business mindset knowing how to make money since I was a child. BUT,

    What do I have to show for it? Not much. Sure I could cite dozens of lessons learned from consumed entrepreneurial books and podcasts but that' just being book smart. And as we know from the Apprentice, book smarts are not the end all be all.

    In the case of being a real entrepreneur my lacrosse teammates would be sure label with the team created word, "poosnani"; someone afraid to get hit, be the underdog or override their fear. What's the problem with being a "poosnani" of an entrepreneur at the young of age 18, fresh out of high school?

    - There's never been a time in this world easier to start one's own business, online or physical. There's never been a time in this world easier to connect and network with successful individuals.
    - I've got such little risk in failing its laughable. I'm set on college, have supportive family and am 18yrs old.
    - Experiencing failure is not necessarily essential to longterm success but it is often times an enlightening and valuable experience. 
    - Idea generation is so damn easy, execution is where the men (women, you know what I mean) separate themselves from the boys.
    - If an entrepreneur has to take risks and override the fear inside them, I guess right now I'm an individual aspiring to be conquer fear. I want to be someone who does that stuff, not just one who "aspires" to do so.
    - Although caddying and two other part time jobs (marketing, media production) are creating significant income and networking opportunities I want to be challenged; challenged to grow and learn. Right now with summer, lacrosse, golf upon me and college two months away, unfortunately I'm frankly content with my summer situation.

    Do you know how the very successful Gary Vaynerchuk learns? BY DOING, hardly ever by reading or consuming content. By experiencing first hand what he needs to learn. That's what I should be doing. I should JFDI (Just F*ing Do It).

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  • July 12, 06:12 PM

    College is Right Around the Corner, and I'm Excited

     

    Ah, college starts in 6.5 weeks from now.

    I'll be entering Babson in the fall as a frosh and I'm definitely looking forward to it. Four years of high school were great at St. John's but everyone says college is the best four years of your life, right?

    I've got a lot of goals and things going for me even before I take my orientation before Memorial Day. 

    - Immediate social circle with varsity lacrosse teammates.

    - Class schedule is looking solid. Good variety, all early morning ones too

    - Babson one day summer "mini-orientation" went well, met a lot of cool, interesting people

    - Will be working at Wellesley C.C, right across the street during the fall

    - Connected with a community engagement officer at Babson and will have a high paying job just for doing service around the school and community

    - Become CEO of the one freshmen classes self created business in FME (Foundations of Management and Entrepreneurship.)

    - Met the president of the college. Will be a great resource and asset in years to come.

    - Starting to plan out a ridiculous number of goals and activities I want to get involved with.

    - volunteer/intern for MetroLacrosse - a youth lacrosse program for inner city youth in Boston

    - take Mandarin Chinese (continue my 3 yrs of study) at Wellesley College

    - really get connected within Boston entrepreneurial and innovation scene. (I know of and follow many individuals within the community but I want to get out to the events and shake their hand.)

    - intern or preferably work for a tech/internet related Boston start-up

    To address the last point, I (unfortunately) hope that I don't take on all this stuff at once. I was basically non-stop, go-go-go in high school volunteering, trying new things and taking on responsibilities that really put a burden of my enjoyment and social life. I hope to shape out a nice balance between the demanding academics, varsity athletics, social scene and intense ambitions that I have. 

    Bottom Line Though: I fully expect to take full advantage of what Babson offers while at the same time having a great time meeting new people and having new experiences.

     

     

     

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  • July 01, 07:08 PM

    Pick a Door and Just Go Through It

    “A hungry donkey approaches a barn one day looking for hay and discovers two haystacks of identical size at the two opposite sides of the barn. The donkey stands in the middle of the barn between the two haystacks, not knowing which to select. Hours go by, but he still can’t make up his mind. Unable to decide, the donkey eventually dies of starvation.”

    One of Dan Ariely’s latest books, Predictably Irrational, has numerous thought provoking studies and conclusions on human behavior. The one area of discussion that I found most interesting was the idea that as individuals, we like to “keep doors open” (options/choices) in many aspects of our daily lives.

    We often times fail to come to decisive conclusions about what college we want to enroll in, which latest smart phone we should in invest it or what career path to take? This indecisiveness arises when we have both multiple or two options available to us.

    We get stuck in what I call “analysis paralysis”; a state of mind in which where your brain races furiously trying to make a decision often times in regards to a small or trivial detail. (As your friend/parents are itching to leave the store, you stand there thinking, “Should I go with the black on black golf shoes or should I go with the equally priced black on grey?”)

    As I read more and more about psychology and how the human brain operates I have become much more aware of my own decision making, both irrational and rational. Since reading Justin Lehr’s “How We Decide” and this Dan Ariely book, I have tried to become more decisive in the decisions or mistakes I make. For example:

    When approaching a golf hole that has multiple strategies to playing it, I decide within a few seconds of when I step on the tee box which shot and therefore strategy I will utilize.

    When driving to an unfamiliar location using GPS, if I miss a turn or signal, I simply follow the GPS’ re-routing so that I’m not trying furiously to get back to where I missed the directions. I might loose a few minutes of time, but it saves me from anxiously backtracking and worrying.

    I’ve also tried to consider “the consequences of not deciding.” When we take extended durations of time to make decisions in our lives we are often times sacrificing valuable time, money or experiences. We tend to over think such small details that really have a negligible impact in the long run on our happiness or well being.

    My point here is not that we shouldn't take due diligence when it comes to important decisions. My point, but mostly Dan Ariely’s, is that we over think the little crap in our lives. Take the time needed, but don’t linger around with indecision. Pick a door, go through it and make the most of whatever awaits on the other side.  

    You can follow me at my Twitter page, contact me via LinkedIn or email me. 

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  • June 21, 05:01 PM

    It's So Damn Hard to Find yOuR pUlsE...

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    I know, trust me, the doctor recently expressed this sentiment when trying to locate my 45bpm hear rate. 

    But I also know that the followers of this blog might not be able to trace the pulse of my published content. I know it's erratic and I'm sorry (maybe?). I've got a lot going on but who doesn't these days?

    I can't promise any regular publishing like Seth Godin (1x/day) or Mitch Joel (6x/week) admirably do. I'll do my best to create quality observations, thoughts or questions as they come to my brain.

    And this is a perfect segway into my latest thought:

    FEED YOUR BRAIN WHEN IT IS HUNGRY

    Hopefully your mind is hungry for knowledge, understanding and experiences often. But just as our stomachs are not constantly aching for sustenance, your mind isn't either. 

    So, when you get that creative spark or spontaneous motivation GO read relevant blogs/books/articles, listen to podcasts, and watch TED, BigThink, or PopTech videos. Feed your mind when it picks up the menu, not when it's perfectly content with resting. Don't regularly schedule mundane reading sessions or lecture watching just for the sake of doing so. You'll be disinterested and likely retain little of the content. 

    Here's a question for you in the comments: When do you feed your mind and What do you feed it?

    Feel free to email me ryandawidjan@gmail.com or follow me on Twitter, @ryandawidjan

     

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  • June 16, 12:14 PM

    It's Ok Not To Have an Opinion...Yet

    Why? I really dislike bandwagon jumpers;

    Those who jump in on a conversation midway when a news report/story/scandal/debate is being explained and then they suddenly just start being one sided agreeing with the speaker, usually never adding valuable context to the dialogue, just opinionated negative statements. 

    They hear a newspaper headline, a scrolling 15 word text alert on the tv, or a mention on the radio and then they think they're experts on the situation to a point where they can immediately start to dish blame/criticism.

    In Ben Casnocha's recent blog post about watching a recent online interview he stated, "Whether you agree or disagree isn't the point and don't interpret this as an endorsement of Chomsky's views. I don't have opinions on these issues until I become more informed." 

    I love this statement - "I don't have opinions on these issues until I become more informed." It's not ignorance on his part [he didn't go out of his way to not know], he simply didn't know enough the ongoing situation and to his credit, he wants to make an informed opinion at a later time when he has better context, facts and understanding of what's going on. 

    I think we should all take this conscious effort to not make uninformed or silly remarks about something we know little about or just one side of. While at the same time I don't believe we need to be top experts in a discipline/field/subject area to make an informed opinion; we should bite our tongues more often 'till we actually have a clue. 

    It's hard to resist jumping on the bandwagon. Media outlets obviously have bias and want higher viewer ratings - they're going to frame a story so that it is controversial and newsworthy. Another thing that makes it hard to resist being a band wagon jumper is we often get that question, "So Ryan, what do you think about those budget cuts that will shorten the school day?". It's extremely easy to say, "Ya Steve, that's horrible. I can't believe what the selectmen were thinking. How can they take away educating our children?" 

    Instead you could say, "You know Steve, its a very important matter that we need to address. I personally don't know enough details about the decision but let me get back to you with my thoughts when I know a little more about both sides of the story."

    Don't be a bandwagon jumper - just an individual who chooses to make informed opinion at the right time.

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    I'll admit I'm a bandwagon jumper sometimes when it comes to playoff sports; Bruins and Red Sox. Very little attention is paid to them during the regular season :)

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  • June 04, 06:18 PM

    Ask For Feedback...Now

      

     

    Do it immediately.

    Just ask.

    Ask your coach, mentor, boss, boyfriend/girlfriend, mom, or best friend what you need to improve on. We're not perfect; almost everyone acknowledges it. To continually improve, learn and grow we need to know what to work on. If your not consciously focusing your efforts on becoming a better "X" everyday, your falling behind.

    It really shouldn't be hard to go up and say, "Coach, what are three things I need to work on right now to become a better player and contributor to the team?". Why? Because you know he/she is going to have some form of constructive criticism; it's guaranteed that you'll be weak in at least one area. So just know keep in mind whether you, the captain or all american is asking for feedback, all three will get something to work on.

    It's frustrating to see talented individuals doing good work in their field or job but never be able to cast aside their fear of acknowledging imperfection to ask, "What can I be doing better?" so that they can become great. Have a strong desire to know why you weren't awarded that industry award or why were you weren't selected as an All-star.

    Not only will this technique help you focus on your improving weaknesses or strengthening your strengths, it will also keep you grounded. Having 2-3 things that you need to work on lingering in the back of your head will instill some humility, something that the vast majority of people in today's world need.

    If Tiger can re-tool his swing and Kobe can make changes to his jump shot in the 13th year of his career  - so can you.  

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  • May 26, 08:10 PM

    When and Where Does "Excellence" Meet "Shipping"?

    I'm confused to how to reconcile these two ideas; and I'd love your help trying to think this out. Tom Peters, the famed author, speaker and consultant stresses striving "Excellence. Always. If Not Excellence, What? If Not Excellence Now, When?" (The Little Big Things - latest book)

    Seth Godin on the other hand, another famed author, thought leader and marketer, stresses "shipping"; getting the product out the door to defeat the "resistance" and fears we all have ranging from failing to being judged. In a blog post regarding his most recent book (Linchpin) he states,

    "Ship often. Ship lousy stuff, but ship. Ship constantly. 

     Skip meetings. Often. Skip them with impunity. Ship."

    One point that he makes repeatedly, often times using himself as an example, is that the most successful individuals are those that ship the most because going by the numbers, they have a greater likelihood of putting a "great" product/company/service out. 

    As a passionate follower and supporter of each, I'd love to just listen to both and take their word for it, BUT, these two trains of thought seem to be in conflict with each other. How can an individual/company/organization "achieve excellence" if they are shipping a 1/2 baked product that they may o making changes to or enhancing? 

    Shipping bad/average/good products that aren't excellent yet is really in contrast with "If Not Excellence Now, When?". And while I don't believe delaying and thrashing at product with the goal in mind of achieving excellence is what Tom Peter's is stressing, it seems like those things would have to be part of the process in trying to best produce product X. 

    How do you resolve this? Can you ship "excellent" products constantly?

    Let me give you something to think about. I enjoy blogging a lot because I get to voice my thoughts, ideas and observations to an audience (albeit small). I also get to connect with a lot of interesting individuals through this blog and twitter (@ryandawidjan). 

    But, I often times don't achieve excellence in regards to every blog post. I focus on shipping my thoughts and ideas for two reasons: writers only get better by writing more and if I delayed writing these spontaneous ideas, they would never manifest themselves. So this means I don't spend hours re-drafting each blog post like I feel Tom Peters would.

    I'm torn because at the same time "It's Always Showtime". A faculty member, friend or potential boss could swing by the blog and see a mediocre post and unfortunately that becomes their first impression of who I am and what I'm about.

    What do you think? Would love to hear your thoughts... 

     

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  • May 25, 10:06 PM

    Be Aware of the Law of Diminishing Marginal Returns

    If there's anything that I took away from my AP Economics class this year it would have to be the Law of Dminishing Marginal Return. Simply put, its "the marginal utility of a good or service is the utility gained (or lost) from an increase (or decrease) in the consumption of that good or service. In general, preferences display diminishing marginal utility. That is, the first unit of consumption of a good or service yields more utility than the second and subsequent units." 

    There are countless diverse examples of this law that we encounter everyday. I was recently reminded of this while driving to school the other day. Once I passed that really slow grandpa on the highway (which yielded a good # of utils), I thought to myself is it really worth it to pass X more number of drivers? Now the L.D.M.R passes through my mind everyday. What does that really get me? What does it really get me to get another or more of X? Is it worth it to risk doing or being Z to get more X? 

    Keeping this simple law in the back of our minds while we go through life can help us relax, become less materialistic (maybe even happier), and be less greedy (30sec blog post by Rajesh Setty).

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    I'm really interested in behavioral economics and one psychology blog that I'm currently hooked on is called the Frontal Cortex by Wired Editor and Rhodes Scholar, Justin Lehrer.   Check it out

     

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  • May 21, 09:20 PM

    Stop! Put that Phone Down..Right Now

    One quick thought I recently had was sparked by a comment by Jason Freid over the highly successful web-based software company, 37signals. Jason said something along the lines of, "By calling someone and interrupting them, you are automatically implying that your point/idea/agenda/question/etc is more important than that individual's time or concentration." One of the themes that Jason and his partner David Hansson is eliminating interruptions in the workplace, a point stressed in their recently published book, REWORK (highly recommended). 

    To accomplish this and to allow workers to better experience the "flow", they're very hesitant to call someone unless it is extremely important. (One of their other points - "ASAP is Poison"). As I got to thinking about this I realized just how interruptive and in my view annoying it is to call someone that could easily be answered with a few words via email/text several hrs later. By making that call to get a yes or no question you've wasted several minutes of both parties time and it could easily end up being one of those awkward calls where 1. you ask the question, 2. they answer and then you know 3. they're just thinking to themselves sarcastically, "Anything else I can help you with today now that you've got a hold of me?"

     

    One other noteworthy though on means of communicating in this digital world:

     - When someone txts you, you should txt back unless it is a complex and lengthy discussion.

    - When someone email you, you should email back.

    - When someone x, you x back.....

    - The individual who initiates the dialogue purposefully chose the medium with which to communicate, and in my opinion, you shouldn't just disregard it and change it up unless it's agreed upon.

    I welcome any comments/questions/suggestions and I guarantee you that if you comment, I won't txt, call or email you, I'll simply comment back. 

     

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  • May 15, 07:36 PM

    Being Opportunistic

    I recently heard a podcast or online video when one individual said something along the lines, "Those who are successful are opportunistic people but those who are ultra-successful [define in own terms] are ultra-opportunistic taking advantage of every situation or opportunity that comes their way." Seems like this is one of the numerous and infinite "ways to success"...

    While I agree with the statement above I also there is another significant aspect of opportunistic in regards to success that needs to be told. I believe in order to be "ultra-opportunistic" you need to be "actively-opportunistic." As an individual who is attempting to make the most of every chance that you get, you also need to create those "chances". Let me explain...

    There are those in life that just sit back and wait for life to come to them. And, perhaps a great job/speaking/traveling/etc opportunity falls into their lap either because of their past achievement or just by plain luck. Sure, if they take advantage of the opportunity they can be considered "opportunistic". 

    But what do the really successful people in life do? Just as the group above might have worked hard, this group of individuals actively and consciously seek out opportunities [does not mean asking for opportunities]. These are the ones who are always prepared, ready to ask the right questions and knowledgeable of what may lie ahead. They've done their research and are aware of the people/organizations/situations they are dealing with so when that opportunity does arise, can they nail it.

    Experiencing serendipity in life is important but relying on preparedness is just as if not more vital to becoming an "actively-opportunistic" and "ultra-successful".

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    Some interesting reads/vids I've come across in the last week.

    Who Are the Masters in Your Field and How Do You Learn from Them? - Ben Casnocha

    The Difference: Living Well vs. Doing Well - Tim Ferriss

    How to Become a Star Screenwriter: A Case Study in Modern Craftsmanship - Cal Newport

    Boredom and Its Effects - Jonah Lehrer

    Are You an Elite? - Seth Godin

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  • March 11, 06:36 PM

    Your Not Always Going to Get a Big Pete


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    Moving your goods from house to house sucks. And so does moving stuff into storage lockers.

     

    But not if you have a "Big Pete" there to assist you.

    Two weeks ago I was helping a family member make a major move and relocation from one condo to two other locations well away from each other. We needed to keep some of her belongings in storage so that she could move into one residence later in the year. That's when we met Pete.

    To make a long story short: Pete, [a very large man] became our best friend for the ensuing days because of his incredible generosity, friendliness and willingness to make this otherwise mundane and difficult task, an enjoyable one. Pete greeted us every single time with a large smile and a "How are you doing today Ryan?". We even got to talking about lacrosse, professional sports and the weather...all while I was lugging bed frames and boxes throughout the facility. His overall attitude and effort actually made me look forward to going to the storage place.

    But, the "harsh" reality of customer service is that your not always going to get a "Big Pete". Some individuals won't go the extra-mile or give of their time and energy freely. Some will be cold with the by the book mentality of "get 'em in, get 'em out" (unlike Zappos).

    That's okay. Once you do encounter this lackluster service you know how you would want your employees or co-workers to operate. This provides an opportunity to learn from others. Look to do business with people, companies or organizations that strive to have a "Big Pete" like interaction with you. And, on the other side of the coin, try to provide that "Big Pete" service for everyone.

    If you have any examples or comments about dealings with a "Big Pete" please share in the comments or via email [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]. Thanks for stopping by.

     

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  • February 28, 10:08 PM

    New Blog Format and What I Can Do For You

    Wow, two weeks and not one blog post...that's lame. After doing a lot of work and school stuff these past two weeks I had trouble making the effort and time to write a quality blog post. I was sorta of thinking that it needed to be a expertly crafted and lengthy post and that's WRONG. I will now be posting a lot more frequently (still "good" content) with ideas, thoughts and observations that I haven't been able to publish. 

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    One thought: I recently received Jack Canfield's The Success Principles book which really epitomizes "self help". After reading a discomforting and slightly arrogant introduction I started flipping through the book and came across a section titled, "Just Say No!". Canfield goes onto state that

    We suffer under project and productivity overload at work-taking on more than we can comfortably deliver in an unconscious desire to impress others, get ahead, and keep up with others' expectations. Meanwhile, our top priorities go unaddressed." 

    After briefly explaining the need to say no to people, he lists several of his "don't do" policies. Examples - 

    - I don't lend money. I am not a bank.

    - I never lend my car to anyone for any reason.

    - I don't give endorsements for books of fiction.

    - I no longer coauthor books with first-time authors. Their learning curve is too time-consuming and expensive.

    - I don't take any calls on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Those are writing days.

     

    I don't know about you, but I'm personally like to define myself by what I can do for you, not what I can't, won't or like to do. These "don't do" policies just present an aura of superiority and a false sense of confidence in oneself.

    At this stage in my life, I enjoy taking the time and energy to do what I want but also what other's ask of me [within reason]. I want to be that generous person who is willing to "give the shirt off his back" and I also believe "A simply way in life to be successful: be helpful" - @jonathanmead

     

    Here's something to think about. Canfield's "don't do" policies could be great things..but too bad they will never be.

    - He could invest some angel money to a budding entrepreneur who could go onto launch a successful startup and the next Google/FB/Twitter...

    - Could lend a car to someone that needs to save money and doesn't have to purchase a rental. That person could also do someone else a favor and give them a ride. 1 action = multiple positive outcomes

    - Could give an endorsement to the next "J.K Rowling". Instead, he can never endorse a friend of his who happens to be a fiction writer (aka a genre he doesn't particularly like)

    - Could give some of his "valuable" time to an author aspiring to be the next successful "Jack Canfield". But instead, the young driven and talented individual won't be supported.

    - Could have chatted with a long time forgotten classmate. Could have connected with a future business partner. Could have had an amazing talk with a grandson or granddaughter. Nope..won't happen on Tues and Thurs.

    Conclusion

    "I wish more people would extend a hand and ask how they can help someone else. We spend so much time selfishly trying to build brands, and grow followers. Perhaps launch companies, or release products. We forget that people are the most important resource we have in the creation and achievement of dreams. And a simple extension of your hand–without expectation–can accelerate your ability to achieve your goals." - Micah @ learntoduck

    This thought encompasses a few guaranteed future blog posts along with a list of "Can Do" policies. Any thoughts or comments? Leave below..or email me at [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]

     

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  • February 14, 05:50 PM

    Why I Cold Email and Why You Should Too

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    As Gary Vaynerchuck has frequently said, "It's 2010..you can get to anyone...just grab it". He means that in this day age of Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, BrazenCareerist, etc virtually everyone can be contacted or connected through a variety of mediums. In my search of a valuable internship experience for this coming summer, I have had this attitude. Throughout the process, I have resorted to cold emailing rather than the more traditional cold call. (Although check out Garyvee conduct a spontaneous and successful cold call hereWhy?

     

    The first reason I employ cold emailing is that it is almost always the preferred way to contact an individual that you have had little contact with the past or even no contact. In my experience, companies, authors and bloggers would gladly provide their email address rather than their office phone. 
    Secondly, and I think that this is a big advantage, emails are usually read when the individual consciously decides to read his or her email. Sure their iPhone or Blackberry may give them a notification, but that doesn't mean they have to immediately respond to your outreach. In my own opinion, phone calls are a lot more intrusive and "stalker-ish" if they don't know you. Plus, these successful individuals have lives outside blogging, writing, speaking etc....they don't want to answer your call at the kid's soccer game.
    It's relatively obvious if your cold emailing or cold calling that you are looking for something...whether it might be a job, internship, piece of advice, update, their time etc. The way in which you present the "pitch" or desire is extremely important. You need to demonstrate that you "deserve" this person's time, advice or favor. 
    To do this, the cold email has to be very personal and unique. It has to show that you actually know what this person or company does. A cold email also gives you a much better opportunity to introduce how your familiar with this person. (They might recognize your name, @name, or email address after you commented or tweeted to them) 
    The great advantage of a cold email is that all the information you wanted to convey is right there in the format you desire. The reader of the email is getting whatever you wanted them to experience. Unlike a cold call which could go any number of which ways, the email is presented in a scripted structure. A cold call requires that you do a lot of talking and explaining up front and this is not the most ideal experience.  
    Another advantage of cold emailing is that you have the great opportunity to link to and present your web presence. You can easily link to your widely read blog, LinkedIn profile or the website that you previously connected with the specific individual on. This can be done in a non-obtrusive way and it does not take away from the content of your email; it adds to it. 
    In an attempt to cold call someone and mention to them of your blog, you will probably stumble mid conversation by saying something like, "Oh yea, great point. I recently discussed that same exact point of being a Linchpin of my blog. I would love for you to check it out. You can find it at www.ryandawidjan.posterouscom, that's R-Y-A-N-D-A-W-I-D-J-A-N, no spaces or caps, at symbol at p-o-s-t-e-r-o-u-s.com" Now the tempo has been completely destroyed and there is 2% chance that the person will remember what you just said.
    Hopefully you've been able to take a few good tips away from my experiences so far. Don't be afraid to include your phone number in the email so that the individual you are reaching out to can call you if they so desire. If I ever come across your awesome blog, company or portfolio, you can expect that I will reach out and cold email you.
    If you've got any questions, comments or suggestions please comment below, that is one good way to get in contact with me. Also, feel free to cold email me at [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]. 

     

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  • February 09, 07:17 PM

    Shhhh...Keep Those Secrets

     

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    No this is not some misinformed marriage counselor. 

    Lately I've come to the personal conclusion that some things are just better off being revealed at the end. Let me explain:
    After a long day of work at the office, dealing with finicky clients, you eventually reach home after 2 hours even though the commute should be just under an hour. You immediately think to yourself, crap, I've got to cook dinner on top of all this. But as you are about to walk in the kitchen you get a wiff of something delicious....SHEPHERD'S PIE!! "Wow honey, I didn't know you were cooking dinner tonight." WHAT A SURPRISE. "Thanks so much, why don't we call Timmy and Kaitlin down for dinner?" 
    What I am getting at here is that events/ongoing processes (large or small) often have a much more pronounced effect when they are revealed after completion. Had "Joe"'s wife told him three days in advance that she was going to cook dinner and then reminded him several other times, the overall feeling of impressiveness and surprise would have greatly diminished. (It's still an incredibly nice gesture though.)
    Another example:
    I recently became interested in obtaining a virtual intern position with web startups. I began searching the internets for a virtual intern "career" board. After finding a great one ( on Urban Interns), I posted a bio, resume and applied to several positions. The next day I heard back from a company and began conversing by email. Half a dozen emails later and I was hired. I was ecstatic because this would give me an opportunity to apply some skills and not have to report to a physical office while going to school full time. Later, I told my mom casually that I had been hired as a virtual intern and she was shocked. (SURPRISED). She was curious about all the details and how I was going to handle it while going to school, working....
    Had I given her updates that I was searching for a virtual internship, finding a directory and conversing by email, the sum effect of telling her I got a position would have been next to nill.

    Why wait to reveal certain things?

    It becomes much more of a shocker, hopefully you reveal good things
    - It usually leads to the other party asking more details/questions about your accomplishment rather than having them simply say "Wow" to your first update and never again bring up the subject
    - Shows a sense of independence and ability to handle things on your own
    - Demonstrates that you've got stuff going on in the background and thus people won't later assume that your not working/learning/studying when not in their presence
    See, I didn't tell you that I was writing this blog post and now your jaw is on the floor after reading such a great post...jk
    Thank you very much for stopping by my blog. I encourage you to leave any comments, questions, or suggestions below. Feel free to email me at [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]

     

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  • January 30, 02:33 PM

    You'd Better Be Damn Good

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    Life is a blur. In today's world we have more than enough things to keep us busy. This requires us to better manage our time so that we can focus on the the things in life that are necessary, enjoyable and/or useful. This has led me to believe that the products/services we use must be worth our time. Although Time ≠ Money). Seth Godin would say that these products need to be "remarkable" (Purple Cow); worth making a remark about.

    I'd like to focus this idea specifically on the internet. Internet use and dependence is continuing to grow at an exponential rate. New startups are founded daily. This makes it all the more important to stand out for the right seasons.

    The new social network, social/game location app, or video service must be able to separate itself from the pack. This can be done in countless ways, but the service needs to be "remarkable" so that I will either join or convert. Despite being an early-adopter, I don't want to spend hours figuring out how to use your service or importing data. We are provided endless choices and it is vital that companies realize that if they want to be in my core group of web applications, they need to win me over.

    Posterous (the blogging platform you are currently reading this blog post on) won me over with their intuitive and slick handful of features. They made it easy for me take my blog posts and blog from WordPress to Posterous. I feel that switching to and using Posterous is worth it. I recently came to the conclusion that using Springpad is a better experience than Evernote.

    As much as we techies and early adopters would like to use every service, app, or network available on the internet, it is impossible to do so. Even leading social media expert Chris Brogan feels the same way. In a recent post, he points out that his presence on the web is too splintered: he has "too many points of contacts." Chris is considering deleting his LinkedIn account and taking other actions to consolidate his presence. Famed marketing guru and thinker, Seth Godin, only focuses on email communication as his way of connecting. He feels that this is the best method for communicating and refuses to use Twitter and FB because those services would detract from what he does best.

    In order to for me to register, use and re-use a product, it's got to be worth the time, effort, and money I am allocating. Once you are in my core group of frequently used products/services/companies, you've got me a "True Fan." 

    My core of services are: Twitter, Facebook, Email [ryandawidjan@gmail.com] and LinkedIn. If you would like to get it touch we me, feel free to use anyone of these. Also, feel compelled to comment below with a question, suggestion or remark.

     

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  • January 25, 08:54 PM

    Pros and Cons of Being Respectfully Ignorant

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    In the very recent Massachusetts' Senate election race between Martha Coackley and Scott Brown, I have to be upfront and explain that I knew little about each candidate besides their respective political parties. (I did hear some grumblings about Coakley's insulting and aggressive campaign ads.) To be honest, I didn't care to spend my time, money (Time ≠ Money) and time to inform myself about this election. (Not 18, can't vote) I didn't feel it was worth it to take away time from the things that were most important in my life; family, school, reading and lacrosse.

    I refer to this as being respectfully ignorant. By being respectfully ignorant, it didn't mean that I didn't believe politics was important or that this election was not a key factor in how this nation will be governed, but as vital as it is to know a lot about a little, you simply can't learn about everything that life has to offer.

    A few Pros and Cons of Being RI:

    Pros
    - Allows to devote your valuable time to what is most important to you. (family, job, sport, hobby, sleep)

    - Lets other informed individuals (or talking heads) fill you in on what is most pertinent

    - Provides you with the time and focus to be the best in the world at something (Seth Godin-ish)

    - It prevents you from looking like a total idiot by trying to talk about something that you have no real clue about

    Cons 
    - It excludes you from being an informed voter/player/student/etc in a specific topic of discussion

    - Some people take your RI as a personal insult and will not understand your decision to not know about their particular interest

    - You may be RI of something that you would really enjoy to study, learn or talk about

    I believe RI can be a wise move in many circumstances but be sure to use it in moderation. 

    Thank you very much for stopping by my blog. I encourage you to leave any comments, questions, or suggestions below. Feel free to email me at [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]

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  • January 20, 08:25 PM

    Anti-networking (yes..anti-networking) as an Attitude

    Anti-networking is the art of getting what you want by never coming close to asking for it. The key to the anti-networking approach is to impress without imploring. The goal is the one day the contact, who has grown fond of you and is impressed by you and your integrity, will notify you that he or she knows of a job opening, and will be willing to recommend you if you are interested.

    This tip comes from well known author and blogger, Cal Newport and his book, "How to Win at College". (highly recommend)

    As I read this piece of advice, labeled "66 - Don't Network", I was initially was shocked and disappointed. After all, I had read so much on networking and promoting your personal brand, from people like Dan Erwin and Tim Sanders. But as I reread the whole two page entry it became clear to me that as a student/lacrosse player/teenager, I really have nothing too valuable (besides time) to offer to a more experienced businessman, speaker, etc. Cal Writes,

    Let's say that I would in the telecommunications industry, and you are a college student. I probably don't care about you. This is a pragmatic decision because there is no mutual benefit. You want a job. There is no doubt of your goal. As a student there is no really other reason why would be proactively trying to meet me, and quite frankly giving out jobs to recent graduates is not all that exciting.

    Lesson

    As "harsh" as this observation this and as I thought more about this, I chose to incorporate this advice into my everyday life. I decided that every interaction that I have with people (in person, over the phone, on social networks, etc), I would do my best to "impress without imploring." I don't mean sucking up to people, pretending to be someone your not or trying to please everyone (you can't). 

    It's about being genuine, and showing, not telling, a person how impressive you truly are. Your impressiveness can lead the other party to take a variety of actions in the long term.

    Offer you a job. 

    Come to you in a time of need.

    Recommend you.

    Form a close relationship.

    Do nothing.*

     

    (Occurs most often, but what harm have you done?)

    I've personally implemented this technique on the golf course. As a caddy and pro shop worker at a local country club, there just aren't too many options for advancement within the organization and thus saw a great opportunity to "anti-network" with many successful members. By viewing every round as an unofficial personal interview, I looked to quietly and humbly impress them so that after every round they would think to themselves, "Wow, this kid has his stuff together and in a few years time I would love for him to work for me.

    One notable thing to mention: I didn't look at every member that I worked for as having a $ sign hovering over the top of their head and I don't think you should do that to anyone. I most enjoy knowing the fact that I have formed closed friendships with many of them and as an example I often play competitive golf with them as an equal partner. Because I was honestly looking to connect with them, countless advancement opportunities have arisen.

    Unassumingly impress others through hard work, generosity and passion. Know that every action you take and word you say is judged by someone, and that someone could well be the person to recommend, assist, or teach you in the future.

     

    I appreciate you stopping by my blog. Feel free (compelled) to make a comment, offer a suggestion or question. Please subscribe if you would like more thought provoking ideas and observations. Thanks

    Ryan

     


     

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  • January 16, 06:13 PM

    Holistic Blogging

    Lately, I have been reading into the learning technique of holistic learning. It is focused on learning new material in a way that avoids the traditional and often times inefficient ways of studying. Holistic learning attempts to create a network of connections between learned material. 

    According to Scott Young, the young Canadian blogger and entrepreneur who I believed coined the term,  
    Holistic learning is the opposite of rote memorization. Instead of learning through force,your goal is to create webs of information that link together. Your goal when learning anything is to create a construct or an underlying understanding." 

    As I thought about this system and process, it came to me that developing a quality blog is very similar. Just as you are able to form more connections and insights with an increase in knowledge, you can start to form new connections with an increase with quality and on topic posts. 

    As you develop your blog’s backbone with a focused theme, the content in posts begin to relate to each other and build your brand. Timely and appropriate links to your own content can not only show your reader other relevant material, but it can enhance your reputation to deliver great insight or knowledge onto a specific subject. 

    Another piece of advice is to link to the content of other individuals, maybe even "competitors", because the no blog post or article is ever the definitive source of information. Chris Brogan, a famed social media expert, believes in a ratio of 12-1 when using social media: he will promote the content or work of others 12x more than he will push his own content. 

    As cliché as this statement is, the time to start blogging was a long time ago, but in order to start creating that solid core of posts, YOU'VE GOT TO START IMMEDIATELY. Get the ball rolling; holistic blogging can only manifest itself when there is material to make connections.

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  • January 08, 11:56 PM

    Steal From Others...That Is Their Positive Characteristics

    I'm a big fan of creating a vision for yourself. A template or mindmap for who you want to be and do.

    To create this vision of who you desire to become, it is important to consider the inputs. What or who is shaping your vision for yourself? In order to constantly improve myself I look to my interactions and observations of others to determine who I want to be, in addition to the self-analysis I do. I feel as if my world view and morals are comprised from dozens of characteristics or lessons from the people in my life.

    I think that "taking" (aspiring to have) the desirable traits from people and rejecting the undesirable ones is a pragmatic skill. Truth is, it is much easier to identify positive and negative qualities in the people around us than it is to do a complete analysis/survey our ourselves.

    Example.

    Recently I came across a well designed video presentation from a successful web entrepreneur and blogger. I was truly impressed and figured that it would be great to discover a new tool on how to create a similar video, so I emailed him. In a concise email I complimented him on his video and nicely asked if he would be share the service/technique that he used to create the compelling piece. 

    Within a 24hr period during the holiday season he responded by saying that he had used the service Animoto (which I would have discovered if I had just watched the final 10 sec of the video). Instead of ignoring my email and declining to answer my question because of my failure to watch the whole 4 minute video, he gladly helped a fellow lifestyle designer out and stated that I should feel free to email him back if I had any other questions.

     As a follow up response, I thanked him for his time and took to heart his invitation to ask questions. I had read his bio on his blog and then I asked him how he had earned the opportunity to have a big time CEO become his personal mentor. Again, within a half a day, he answered and then began asking questions about the projects I was involved in. Here I am, this 17yr old stranger taking up his time and inbox, and he is showing interest in me and what I do.

    To date, we've since exchanged several emails regarding muses, ideas and mentors. 

    What that Interaction Did.

    It re-emphasized the idea of being generous: generous with your time, money and talents. It re-emphasized the idea of genuinely caring about someone in your tribe or community. It re-emphasized the idea of the importance of spreading ideas, advice and knowledge. 

    It made me think to myself, "Wow, as I become more successful and knowledgeable, I would love to do the same exact thing for another inquisitive 17yr old."

    Conclusion.

    Try and take the positive traits/behaviors/characteristics/acts of people and really commit to trying to do those same things in your life. And for the negative "          ", do the exact opposite. Having seen their flaw, attempt to correct and/or prevent yourself from ever repeating what they did. (Note: We are all flawed, so that doesn't mean avoiding all of humanity.) 

    The mental mindset (neg) : "Please promise yourself [Ryan William Dawidjan], that you'll never do what XYZ just did. That was           and totally          . I would never want to represent myself in that manner."

    The mental mindset (pos) : "Please promise yourself [Ryan William Dawidjan], that you will make every attempt and effort to replicate what XYZ just did. It was such a great          and this is a valuable lesson to learn."

     

    Thank's for stopping by. Feel free to leave comments, suggestions, subscribe or email me at [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]

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  • January 06, 10:43 PM

    The Need to Know a Little About a Lot

     

    Recently (last few months) I've personally read about the strong discussion about being good a lot of things vs. being great at something. As Corbett Bar recently put it,

    There’s an age-old question that everyone seems to struggle with at some point in life. Is it better to be a Renaissance man or woman and be good at a lot of different things or to be laser-focused and really great at one specific thing?

    I have yet to reach a definitive conclusion on what I believe is better, but I strongly believe that whether or not an individual is a Renaissance man/woman or is "laser focused", an individual should be well rounded in that they are culturally literate. 

    What is Cultural Literacy?

    The contributors of Wikipedia have stated that,

     is the ability to converse fluently in the idiomsallusions and informal content which creates and constitutes a dominant culture. From being familiar with street signs to knowing historical references to understanding the most recent slang, literacy demands interaction with the culture and reflection of it.

    I expand that definition to include having a slight clue of current world events, politics, sports or pop culture. 

    Why is it important?

    I personally believe that it is important because it dramatically increases your ability to contribute and connect with other individuals. If you have some clue about the latest major sports result or world crisis, it makes it that much easier to create productive small talk.

    In my work as a caddy, I have found it extremely helpful to glance at the headlines in the paper so that I have more to say than "good shot" or "nice putt" to my member during the course of 4.5 hours. 

    Knowing some obscure trivia or pop culture reference can help you connect with a classmate, teammate, stranger or friend that has a niche passion or interest. Not only can you genuinely connect with them, but you can then practice humility by asking a question(s) about their beloved interest. In the end, one party has learned something due to the sharing by another.

    Lesson?

    Remember those Snapple Facts, glance at the mornings headlines and read more in-depth when time allows, and use WIKIPEDIA. Why? Because it's free, simple and fast. Certainly don't use it for those school research projects, but anytime you have a craving to find out a little more about a particular company, word, person, trend, etc, use the world's free encyclopedia. 

    You never know when a fact like, "The Isle of Man's (a place I am visiting in May) parliament, Tynwald, is the oldest continuous parliament in the world." 

    Don't know what/where/who/when the Isle of Man is? Look it up

    Free free to leave comments, suggestions, questions or subscribe. Also, I invite you to email me at [ryandawidjan@gmail.com]

     

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Profile

Ryan Dawidjan

Full Time Student
Sports | Greater Boston Area, US

Experience

  • Nov 2009 - Present

    Paid Assistant / Pagano Media

    Set-up, film, break down, resolve technical issues, handle customer service.
  • Nov 2009 - Apr 2010

    Media Intern / ChineseResumeWriter

    Responsible for developing marketing strategies, designing company website, and managing social media

    A virtual internship with Beijing based web company
  • Sept 2006 - Oct 2009

    Pro Shop Worker / Tatnuck Country Club

    AA caddy
  • Aug 2006 - Aug 2008

    Camp Counselor / Assumption College

    Camp Counselor for both basketball and lacrosse summer camps

Education

  • Babson College

    Bachelors in Marketing, Entrepreneurship
  • 2006 - 2010

    Saint John's High School

    Everything and Anything
    Activities: National Honor Society, P3, Student Ambassador, Varsity Lacrosse, Mock Trial, Video

Additional information

Websites:
Honors:
Caddy of the Year - Tatnuck C.C (2008) David C. Cassidy Memorial Award Arthur M. Blank Scholarship Recipient
Interests:
Golf, Lacrosse, Web Startups, Entrepreneurship, School, Caddying
Assoc.:
National Honor Society Saint John's High School